Dear Hyapatia,
I am having a problem with my dude that may not seem very big to most people, but hear me out. He likes to smoke joints. I like to smoke a bong or a pipe. I think he wastes too much pot in a joint and we go through our stash faster that way. He says I'm nuts, that we go through it just as fast either way. When we vape, it goes really quick. We both agree on that.  It doesn't seem like a big deal, but with the price of flowers now, it is a big deal to me.

Dear Veronica,
Not sure what you're asking, but I'II agree on vaping. Your stash really goes quick that way. And I agree with you on smoking joints. Joints are great with three or more people. But with just two, it seems that the joint is held a lot of the time and continues to burn. Groups of seven more people are perfect for joints. I often smoke alone. I use a dab pen or a pipe when I'm away and a bong when I'm at home. Just personal preference.
I hope you can help me. My lady and I have been together for a while now and things are starting to get boring in bed. I suggested we try some different things and she thought I meant I wanted to fuck her up the ass. That isn't exactly what I was suggesting, although I would be in to that. I was just hoping to making things more exciting in bed, you know, not the same old thing all the time. Now every time I bring it up, she thinks I'm talking about fucking up the ass. How can I get things more exciting without her thinking that's all I'm talking about?  What other things can we do? I mean, we have done all the different positions and stuff.

Dear J.,
There are cool shops that have sexy clothes that are for the bedroom only. There's stuff for you and her. These shops also have toys and bondage restraints. Don't go there first, let her lead you. This way you'll see what she's really into and then you can go that way next time you have sex. You can also try role playing. Pretending like you just met, or that you are her gigolo or something like that, can be exciting for some people. I personally like doing things in public. I try to keep it so that no one knows but me and my partner. The excitement of being in a new place, possibly getting caught, and the limits on what you can actually do all add to the fun. It's nice to start in public and move to the bedroom. You can each also take turns being dominant. I like that one a lot, too.

My girl and I watch movies a lot and we want to know why no one ever seems to have sex in a bed anymore.  It's all on couches, in cars, on kitchen tables, outside in the open and in all kinds of places that no one really has sex in. What's up with that?

Dear Jerry,
The movie business tries to make each sex scene seem new and exciting. That's hard to do if they're all the same old in-and-out and a "money shot." So they try to mix it up a bit by changing the scenery. They're fantasies; no one really does most of these things in real life. It's just for your entertainment, something to break up the boredom and monotony of life. They're an escape from reality. So, no, you won't find much stuff in porn that real people do. Even the amateur videos are starting to have more unrealistic sex scenes, or backgrounds, in them.

Hey Hyapatia,
I heard that Gloria Leonard died the other day. Maybe I'm dating myself, but I always liked her. She was a class act, like you. She ran High Society magazine for years. Do you know how she died?  What was she doing the last several years?

Dear Bobby,
Gloria was a very good friend of mine. I remember shooting for High Society in New York. She was on the set the whole time and helped me tremendously. I was new to the business then. After the shoot, we went out to eat. Walking down the streets of New York City, she pulled out a joint and lit it, took a toke and handed it to me. I was amazed. I said, "I didn't know you could get away with this in New York."  She replied, "Well -- I can." We passed a cop and he just tipped his hat to her and said "Miss Leonard!" Now that is respect!
She told me who to work for and who to avoid. She taught me how to say "no" and "not for that kind of money." She was the epitome of class and I always tried to emulate that. Her last several years were spent on the big island of Hawaii on the side of a tall hill overlooking the ocean. She was a prisoner in paradise. She loved it there, but also missed the excitement of New York City and all of her friends on the mainland. She died of natural causes and I can't say enough good things about her talent and personality. She will be missed.