Dear Hyapatia,
My boyfriend wants me to have sex with him. But we’ve only been together for five days! I’ve known him most of my life, but we just started being boyfriend and girlfriend. I didn't know he was the kind to want to have sex so fast. Am I just being stupid about something everyone else does? I’m not a virgin, but I have only had a couple of lovers and I don't want to fuck every guy I meet and go out with.
Chris

Dearest Chris,
You should never let anyone pressure you into having sex before you’re ready. And if you’re never ready to have sex with this boy, that’s fine, too. You can move on without having sex with him. If he still wants to have sex and you feel annoyed by it, I’d dump him. But if you still want to see him, try explaining that you’ve only had a couple of lovers and you don’t intended to fuck every guy in town. You are worth holding out for! And if he decides to move on, remember – that’s fine too!
And don’t feel you’re being “stupid about something everyone else does.” Some women, like me, have enjoyed sex with a variety of partners in many different situations and enjoyed every minute of it. Others end up having sex with only one or two men in their lives. Each is fine. Whatever feels right and comfortable for you is the path you should follow. Perhaps in the future when you may change your mind about sex. You may want more; you may want less. And that’s normal. People constantly change and that’s the beauty – and, sometimes, the pain – of life. By the way, all of the above goes for guy, too!

Hyapatia,
Yeah, I got a question. What is it with lesbians?  What do they do in bed? Why do some gay women go with a girl who looks like a boy? Why not just go boy? I don't get it.

James

Dear James,
Each woman has her own preferences. Sometimes they do fuck each other with dildos, but most of them enjoy clitoral orgasms. So they may rub each other or go down on each other. Some people think women "scissor" – putting their pussies together and rubbing. But from what I have seen, experienced and heard, this is a male fantasy.
Women don't have a dominant and submissive role in sex that is constant. Sometimes they’ll switch up as to who is dominant and who’s not, but that can change at any moment – even in the same romp in the hay. Lesbians are interested in partners for their minds, not just the body; the relationship is the most important thing. Some lesbians are attracted to masculine-looking women. But they’re not with their partners because of the way they look; they’re with another woman for emotional reasons.

Hyapatia,
My boyfriend likes to fall asleep with his penis inside me. He sticks it in to fall asleep even if we haven’t had sex, and we spoon all night. Is this normal? I’m having a hard time sleeping. My pussy hurts and itches. Is that normal?
Janice

Dearest Janice,
It’s not normal for your pussy to itch and hurt – and it’s also quite unusual for a guy to sleep all night, every night, with his dick in a girl's pussy! I suggest that’s why your pussy itches and hurts.
Contrary to what a lot of guys seem to think, a pussy is not an opening that needs something to fill it. Its walls touch each other, until something slides in. It is not configured in a straight line, unless the woman is in a position that allows it. For example, a woman cannot comfortably put a dildo in her pussy and sit down. The body bends, the pussy bends, the dildo does not.
The pussy is made for fucking and delivering babies. It’s not made to stash something in or designed to make someone else feel better for an extended length of time.
I would tell your boyfriend to get his dick out of you when he sleeps. Personally, that would drive me nuts! I could never stay in one position all night long, like spooning just to keep his dick warm.