Dear Hyapatia,
I love reading your questions and answers. I don't really have a question, but wanted to let you know about how we’ve been using marijuana to help rape victims recover. Most women we deal with have a very difficult time relaxing during sex and learning to enjoy it. This can be a long process and it’s filled with memories of the past that get in the way of experiencing the present. We’ve found that edibles containing a significant dose of indica allow the survivor to relax and concentrate on having an enjoyable sensation. Naturally, this is preceded by talk therapy. Since we have had such success with our program, I felt it necessary to get the word out to help other survivors. I hope you understand why I’ve kept our facility’s name and location withheld.
Sincerely,
A concerned therapist

Dear Concerned Therapist,
Thank you very much for getting the news out there! I hope it helps people to enjoy their bodies again. I have seen others have success with the help of pot. Anything that can help these people should be fully supported. And, of course, I totally understand your need for privacy.

Dear Hyapatia,
My husband and I have been married for over 10 years. I got to be honest, after being together for this long, sex starts to get kinda boring. I mean, I love my husband and I really enjoy sex, but it's the same thing every time. How can we get some excitement back into the bedroom? We’ve tried just about every sex act you can do a million times. Any suggestions?
Bored

Dear Bored,
Have you tried role-playing? Perhaps you or your husband could dress up as another person, take on another personality and act like you don’t know each other. Depending on how well you two can act, this can be really exciting – like having sex with a total stranger, except this is safe!
You could also make a night of it. Each agrees to meet at a certain club or restaurant and "pick each other up." Wearing something you would rarely wear, if ever, can add to the excitement. Try having sex in a place in your home that you’ve never made love in before. Let me know how it works out!

Dear Hyapatia,
I live in a state where pot is still illegal. This makes it hard to pick up girls who smoke. I can't just ask them before we go to my place. They could be a cop or be really against it and turn me in – or something like that. How can I find out if a girl is into weed without risking my freedom? I haven't been in a relationship for almost a year and that really sucks.
Stephen

Dear Stephen,
Everybody needs somebody to go through life with, even if it’s only for a little while. People were meant to be together. We all know it and feel it. We all need acceptance and kindness and love and we all deserve it, too. When society puts such crazy restrictions on us, it makes it hard to find someone to love. This is another consequence of the War on Pot.
There are some social sites that cater to our kind and there are some that use code words to connect like "420 friendly," "herbal healer," and other similar terms that can guide you to someone you might be interested in. When meeting a new lady, I suggest you think about bringing up the topic of hemp first. This can be a safe, legal alternative that can give you clues as to where someone stands. Ask what bands she likes. Hopefully, she’ll ask you the same question. At that point, you can mention bands that are known for their love of the plant. Maybe this will get the two of you on the same wavelength. At least, you’ll find out if you have he same tastes in music and culture. It should lead you to find out if she’s likely to smoke, too.