Dear Hyapatia,
My girlfriend can't come from fucking. I want to help her. We’ve talked about it a lot, but she doesn't know what to suggest. She says she’s never been able to come from fucking. I’ve tried playing with her clit while we're fucking and she likes that, but she still doesn't come. What else can I do?

Zach

Dear Zach,
Try as many different positions as you can think of. Sometimes a girl has a tilted uterus, making her G-spot harder to reach. If your cock curves, and most men's do, then there may be some positions that are better than others. Don't forget the reverse cowgirl position –  her on top, straddling you and facing away from you. Sometimes that one works when others don't. Don't get stuck thinking that you have to stay in bed. Tables, chairs and even stairs make good places for different angles and positions.

Dear Hyapatia,
We like to go to concerts and see our favorite bands play live. We don't really spend our money on much else – except for weed, of course – so we try to get the best seats we can. My girlfriend has been invited backstage a couple of times and she always goes. They don't want me though, so I just gotta wait until she’s ready to go. This really pisses me off. I don't think it's cool that she goes and hangs out with these guys – probably having sex with them – and I just gotta chill. She would freak if it were reversed. We got another concert coming up soon and I’ve told her I don't want her doing that this time. I told her I would leave her there if she went backstage without me. I worry about her though. Should I just leave her there?
Randy

Dear Randy,
I would. I mean, she’s being very inconsiderate of your feelings and you have warned her. It’s amazing that you have put  up with it so far. I don't think many people would. Obviously, you don't want anything to happen to her. But if she’s going to put herself in these situations, and you’ve warned her that you’ll leave her, I’d just dump her and find someone better.

Dear Hyapatia,
My boyfriend and I are swingers. We belong to a club and we meet every month for a great fucking time. We all smoke, so that makes it even better. The only thing is I’m the only one who asks guys to wear a condom. Am I being silly? I feel like the odd one. I’m on birth control, so that’s not an issue. Since we are such a close group, I feel like I should just fuck without a condom like everyone else.
Gina

Dear Gina,
You never know what someone else in your group might do during the month with someone else. They could have a casual encounter, unprotected, and infect the entire group like wildfire. I would stick to your demand for condoms. It’s far better to be safe than sorry. And it wouldn't hurt to suggest to the rest of the group that they start using condoms too.

Dear Hyapatia,
I just got together with this girl. We really hit it off and we’re spending a lot of time together. She wants to know about my past girlfriends. I’ve been around enough to know talking about past relationships is a bad idea. I keep trying to avoid it, but she won't give it up. She’s young and kinda inexperienced and I get the idea she hasn't been with that many dudes. I don't want to tell her about all the girls I've had, but if she keeps asking, I don't know what else to do.
Jason

Dear Jason,
Go with your original gut instinct and keep avoiding that conversation. Tell her it’s not important what happened in the past because you live in the present. If you are practicing safe sex, she has nothing to worry about and the past is totally irrelevant. Hopefully, she’ll soon come to that realization.