Dear Hyapatia
My boyfriend and I have sex a lot -- like five or six times a day. Some of our friends say we’re addicted to sex. It doesn't seem like all that strange to me. Are we sex addicts?
Annette

Dear Annette,
Five or six times a day does seem a bit excessive, but if you two can get all the stuff done in a day that you need to do, then so what? It really isn't anyone else's business. There have been times in my life when a relationship was new and exciting – and I’ve had sex five or six times a day as well, but not for more than a month or two. But, again, if you’re both happy, it’s all that matters.

Dear Hyapatia,
My girlfriend don't want to fuck unless we’re real high and the music is jammin'. That was cool with me for a while, but these are dry times. She don't need to be making it harder, by making me go without sex, too. Also, I like loud music, too, but she talks really quietly and I really get off on talking dirty. I want to be able to hear her moan and groan and beg for more.
Jared

Dear Jared,
Have you told your girlfriend how much you like to hear her sexy voice, and how you can't hear it over the music? Tell her how it turns you on. If that doesn't work, maybe you could suggest turning it down just a bit. You don't want bother the neighbors. [wink] As for wanting to be really stoned in order to have sex, something may be up there. Sometimes, when people prefer that their consciousness be completely altered in order to fuck, it’s an indication that they may have had a bad experience in the past and are trying to forget about. Try a little heart to heart talk. If you're low on weed, help her relax with a hot bath. Or a body rub with sexy massage oils, candles and, of course, a little music.

Dear Hyapatia,
My girlfriend has a dog that hates me. Every time I kiss or hold hands or put my arm around her, the dog jumps in between us. I’m not afraid of the dog, but it’s a big distraction. I’ve asked her to take him to obedience school, but she refuses. I suggested she leave the dog home when she comes over, but she says the dog makes her feel safe when she’s away from home. I understand that, but there has to be a way to get this dog to settle down and accept the fact we’re together. I’ve thought about giving the dog a little weed to make him chill. She’s concerned that this will hurt the dog. But I’ve heard of people getting their pets stoned all the time.
Phil

Dear Phil,
Try dealing with the dog. Chew toys, bones or even a hamburger now and then can get you off the dog's shit list and make you his favorite friend. Once the dog feels sure that you’re not going to take his owner away from him and that you’re cool, I’m sure he’ll come around. There’s no doubt that some pets love pot. I once had a Siberian Husky that would eat any weed left out. My cat loves it and if I smoke, she won't get her face out of my smoke. I don't think getting a pet mildly stoned will do any harm. But don't overdo it. You’re not a veterinarian and you should never medicate a pet into lethargy.

Hello Hyapatia,
My name is Diedra and I am currently taking hormones in preparation for my sex reassignment operation. I am a woman trapped in a man's body. I have done all kinds of therapy and my dream is finally coming true. I don't want anything to make it less than as successful as it can be. Which brings me to smoking weed. I smoke – a lot. Should I stop smoking? I’m afraid to tell my doctor. I’m afraid if he knew, he might not do the surgery. Have you heard of anyone going through the sex change – whether they smoked and if it affected them in any way?
Diedra

Dear Diedra,
I’m sorry, but I’ve never been close enough to a person who’s gone through a sex change to know. I’m not a doctor; I really can't give medical advice. But my gut reaction is that cannabis is of nature and the earth. Humans have receptors for cannabinoids, so I wouldn't think it could do any harm. But honestly, if you're going through all this to become what you always wanted to be, be sure. Ask a medical professional – especially your own doctor!