Dear Hyapatia
I have a girlfriend who’s 18. I’m 29. A lot of my friends are against our relationship. They say I’m too old for her and that I’m corrupting her. She and I love to get high together and talk until the sun comes up. Of course, we have some pretty hot sex, too. I don't understand why everyone has to rain on our parade. We are perfectly happy together. Is there something wrong with us? We just don't get it. We don't think it’s that much of an age difference to be concerned over and we’re in love. She smoked weed before she met me, so I’m not influencing her behavior in that way. What do you think?
Elija

Dear Elija,
I certainly don't think there’s anything wrong with it, but it’s no one's business, really. What matters is whether both of you are happy. The only people who should be able to comment are her parents. But since she’s over 18, she’s a legal adult.

Dear Hyapatia,
My girlfriend likes to have sex in public places. When she and I go out, I think it’s going to be a normal evening. Then, all of a sudden, she disappears beneath the table. It was kind of fun at first, but the more it happens, the more I figure it’s just a matter of time before we get caught. It scares me and I’m getting to the point where I just can't do it anymore. She takes this as a challenge and works even harder to get me going. I really like her and don't want to lose her. But I don't want to be arrested and have to notify neighbors if I move in to a neighborhood – if you know what I mean. How can I get her to give this up?
Jeremy

Dear Jeremy,
Obviously, she really enjoys this. I understand not wanting to get in trouble. Is there some way you can go out, have a good time and, maybe on occasion, find a safe place to have sex in public? There are many swingers that go to clubs just to spice up their private sex lives and never actually change partners. Maybe this is an option for you. Or you could visit a nudist camp that welcomes swingers. There are many out there that do. Find a safe way to keep yourselves happy – and free!

Dear Hyapatia,
The doctor wants to put me on some medication that will make it hard for me to get an erection. I don't like that side effect, but he keeps insisting that I need the medication. I don't want to lose my girlfriend. What should I do?
Scott

Dear Scott,
I’m not a physician and I don’t know your condition, but If the doctor thinks this is a very important medication for your health, I’d have to go with his opinion. Or get a second opinion. It’s more important to maintain your health and live another day than to get an erection. But if you begin taking this medication for a few weeks and it becomes difficult to get an erection, ask your doctor for something to help you with that side effect. There are many good medications on the market to help men with erections. If your girlfriend really cares about you, she should understand and be supportive. Otherwise, she’s being selfish. If that’s the case, I‘d find another if she can't get on board with the new you. Again, I don’t know you’re condition, but it wouldn't hurt to do some research about possible cannabis strains as medication.

Dear Hyapatia,
I have a strange situation. My current girlfriend is the daughter of a former girlfriend. I didn’t plan this; it just happened. I didn't even know who my girlfriend's mother was until I answered the phone and recognized her mother's voice. It’s really an awkward situation. They don't know it yet and I’m trying to avoid that. I could just break up with her and forget the whole thing, but I really like her a lot.
James

Dear James,
Well, what if you decide she’s the one for you and you decide to get married? The truth would have to come out then. If you think it could go that far, you might want to think about how you’re going to break the news! You got into this position honestly. If the time comes, lay the cards on the table, But I can’t predict how they’ll react. Good luck.