We’re pleased to announce that next month, former adult film superstar Hyapatia Lee will debut her new online sex column “Sex Pot.”
Hyapatia received many industry awards and is a member of the XRCO Hall of Fame. She is most famous for adapting Chaucer’s Canterbury Tales into an adult film, The Ribald Tales of Canterbury. At the time, it was the most expensive adult film ever shot, with a budget of over $300,000.
In 1995, Hyapatia received a Lifetime Achievement Award from the Free Speech Coalition for her First Amendment rights activism. Today, she is a successful singer and songwriter and has released two albums – the second with her band Double Euphoric.
She is Cherokee and believes in the traditions of the Star People who seeded this planet and brought cannabis to earth. She is also a member of NORML.
What qualifies you to be the new HIGH TIMES sex advice columnist?
Well, I wrote an advice column for Cheri magazine for five years. I’ve smoked pot since 1978. I’ve grown it for over 20 years – inside and out. I’ve traveled the world and seen a lot more than most people get to see in their entire lifetime.
I lived outside Bloomington, IN for over 25 years where the Kinsey Institute is located, so I could take advantage of their studies. I’ve spoken many times at Indiana University in sexuality classes.
I’m close friends with Dr. Ted McIlvenna of the Institute for Advanced Sexual Study in San Francisco and speak to him frequently regarding the current state of human sexuality worldwide. I also still keep in touch with fans and friends through streammates.com, where I do live nude modeling.
Did being in the adult film industry influence your feelings about sex for better or for worse?
My feelings about sex were fairly set by the time I decided to make adult movies. My experience in film has only solidified my original beliefs. I’ve been lucky to be able to experiment so much and fulfill many fantasies.
Sex and love are two different things. You can have one without the other. You can have great sexual chemistry with someone you absolutely cannot get along with. That’s pretty apparent in our society. When you find love and great sex in the same person, you get magic.
What is the best universal sexual advice you can give to everyone?
First of all, take the time in private to find out what you like and what turns you on. Be honest with yourself. There’s no shame here, unless you're some kind of evil person who gets off on really hurting people, children, or animals.
The next step is to communicate and to listen. Ask what your partner wants; let them know what it is that you like. If you can talk about your intimate desires with someone and know that they’re not going to get all weird about it, then you’ve found someone who is a good mate.
Thirdly, if you are in a long-term relationship, don't be afraid to mix it up a bit. Romance is always work: Flower petals leading to a bubble bath – then to the bedroom, perhaps.
Dressing up can be exciting. A relationship doesn’t happen by itself. It doesn’t sustain itself without attention from both parties. It’s important to always work on your relationship, in every way possible, if you want to keep it. Sex is just one of those ways.
I know it sounds cliché, but I really was raised by my Cherokee grandmother who taught me our traditions, language, songs, and herbal healing traditions. I also studied herbal medicine with Gladys Tantaquidgeon whose brother Herald was the last Chief of the Mohican tribe. I also started my own line of herbal healing salves and tinctures way back in 1986 called Native Herbal Recipes in response to antibiotic resistant bacteria.
There is a story well known amongst many tribes. There was a time when people started taking more from the animal kingdoms than they needed. They hunted for sport and not for need. So the animals all decided to hold council. They gathered at the edge of a meadow so all of the creatures of the day and night could feel safe with the nocturnal ones hiding in the forest. Each told stories of how humans had hunted them for their fur and left their meat to rot – or had taken their feathers and thrown their bodies away. As each animal told his story, a disease or ailment was created to inflict suffering on the humans for their cruelty. When the animals had finished, it was deep into the night and they dispersed back to their homes. The plants, after hearing of all of the horrible diseases the animals had inflicted on man, took pity on us and decided that for every malady the animals had created, they would supply a remedy. Some plants volunteered to help more than one illness; others made pacts to work together for more complicated diseases.
It’s my belief that the plant responsible for healing the majority of humanity’s ills – in one way or another – is the cannabis plant. In The Emperor Wears No Clothes, Jack Herer revealed the multitudes of ways that this one plant can save not only our health, but the health of the entire planet. It’s against all common sense that a plant could be outlawed – as if one could outlaw a rock or a tree species.
For me, outlawing cannabis is another assault on Native beliefs. We honor and respect the Earth as our Mother. How could a part of my mother, that gives all of us sustenance, be against the law or bad in any way? It’s not for humans to decide such a thing.
Smoking marijuana and doing peyote should not have to be protected by a religion. It infuriates me that my religion is not considered a true religion in the eyes of the government that committed genocide to steal this continent.
At 52 how do you view your life so far and what do you think the future holds for you?
I've lived many lives in just 52 years and done a lot. But I feel that the best and most exciting times are yet to come. Everything I've done so far has been to prepare me for what is coming next. I don't have a clue really what it is. I just kind of let spirit lead me and keep my eyes and ears open.
Right now I am very excited about the episode of The Gigolos that I shot for Showtime that airs on April 24th at 11 pm. And of course, there’s the US Cannabis Cup in Denver on April 20-21.
Most of all though, I hope you’ll check out my new column which debuts in April.
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